Freedom from Pornography
There are a number of resources towards achieving freedom from pornography.
The King’s Men highly recommends the following steps:
¨ Admit you don’t have control over this problem, resolve to get well and seek help;
¨ Think and evaluate your home and work environment. Are there any triggers to porn in those places? Take measures to remove them immediately;
¨ Think and evaluate the friends and places that you frequently find yourself outside of home and work. Assess whether they are contributing to the vice of porn. If so, take measures to remove or replace them in your life;
¨ Reflect on the times when you have acted out with porn. Assess whether there is a pattern to your behavior. For instance, if loneliness is a pattern, then seek to combat your loneliness by pursuing friendships and relationships that can reduce or eliminate the feelings of loneliness;
¨ Have accountability to someone other than yourself! Join a men’s group that offers accountability, mentoring and friendship with brothers who can effectively walk with you on your journey of recovery;
¨ Pray, pray, pray! Develop a daily prayer life. Seek God’s forgiveness and grace when you fall to your sin. Avail yourself of these graces daily by praying the rosary, reading the Bible, fasting, and frequenting the sacraments of Reconciliation (as often as is necessary) and Eucharist;
¨ Discern your root sin—for most men it is pride or lust. Apply or replace the vice with a corresponding virtue. For instance the corresponding virtue to pride is humility. Seek daily opportunities to humble yourself.
¨ Take counter measures to evil inclinations and temptations in your life. Take a stand against the multi-billion dollar porn industry. Visit the TKM web page for more details.
¨ Make a public statement about your struggle or as we like to say at TKM “lead with your weakness.” This can be done in a men’s group or some other forum where trust is met and confidentiality secured;
¨ Pursue your vocation as a man! Your vocation whether it is single, married or religious life is your path to holiness and freedom from sin.
Note: this 10 step outline was adapted from Co-Founder of TKM Mark Houck’s article entitled Pornography: What’s the Problem? Published by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops in 2008.